We, the parents, are responsible for how our children are representing us in public. The people who do Bandhs against the national interest should be called 'Bandhars' for their reckless behavior.
So what I say is that the parents--the united citizens of Nepal, need to respond correctly to their children--the misbehaving political parties.
Let's pick up some good parenting tips. First thing we need to understand is why do these Bandhars do what they do? What is the reward that they are getting for their misbehavior?
Goals Of Misbehavior
. Dinkmeyer, McKay, & Dinkmeyer have provided a summary table describing the goals of misbehavior. The table includes a statement of what the child is thinking or believing, how the adult responds, and some guidelines to help the teacher change the child's resulting behavior.
|Attention||I count only when I am being noticed or served.||Annoyed; wants to remind, coax.|| Temporarily stops disturbing action when given attention but soon continues; |
-may begin new behavior to gain attention.
| Ignore when possible; give attention in unexpected ways; |
-give attention for positive behavior; never give attention on demand.
|Power||I count only when I am dominating, when you do what I want you to do, when I can do whatever I want.||Provoked,angry; generally wants power; -challenged; "l'll make him/her do it"; "You can't get away with it."|| Intensifies action when reprimanded; |
-child wants to win, be boss: defiance.
| Withdraw from conflict; act, rather than talk; |
-be friendly.Establish equality;
-redirect child's efforts into constructive channels.
|Revenge||I can't be liked;I don't have power but l'll count if I can hurt others as I feel hurt by life.||Hurt; "How can he/she do this to me?"; -retaliates, tries to get even.||Wants to get even; -makes self disliked. -Seeks further revenge.|| Maintain order with minimum restraint; -avoid retaliation or punishment. |
-Take time and effort to help child.
-Build trusting relationship.
|Display of inadequacy||I can't do anything right so I won't try to do anything at all; I am no good||Despair, hopeless, discouraged; "I give up."|| No reprimand therefore no reaction; |
-feels there is no use to try;
-passive; no improvement
| Encourage any positive effort; |
-faith in a child's ability;
-don't give up, pity or criticize.